29th June 2020

The Psychology of socialising

Have you ever wondered why there are so many diversities in individuals versus society?  Have you thought about what are the social forces that shape each different existence? If you have not wondered about it before, after this you will have a few questions.

The studying of individuals has been a key in understanding societies, cultures and behaviours. For many years socialist, capitalist and psychologist through themselves in and sometimes at their own expense in social experiences. The quest to understand the world we live in became part of history. If you can educate yourself in understanding cultures, you will understand a part of how the world functions, and even be at a point where you can manipulate and influence it.

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Culture is one of the elements why people have that sense of belonging and according to the Meriam webster online dictionary- Culture is “the customary beliefs, social forms, and material traits of a racial, religious, or social groupal” or “the set of shared attitudes, values, goals, and practices that characterizes an institution or organization a Corporate culture focused on the bottom line” or the set of values, conventions, or social practices associated with a particular field, activity, or societal characteristic studying..” or “the integrated pattern of human knowledge, belief, and behavior that depends upon the capacity for learning and transmitting knowledge to succeeding generations”.

In other word if you are musician and you like being around other musicians, you most likely belong to a group of individuals that is like minded than yourself in music.  You have a sense of belong and therefore you belong to the culture of the musician group. In other areas you may belong to different kinds of social groups, with their own norms, values, and culture.  If you do not fit into the culture of the group, you will feel unwanted. But culture has many facets, and there are different categories in which you can be part it. sMaslow hierarchy of needs set the need of belonging right in the middle, under esteem. Where it should be together with esteem. With belonging you achieve or have a status. I base this theory on the planet of the apes, not necessary the movie itself, although the power play between apes and humans for control does seem like an interesting topic, but rather on they psychology of socialising.

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Some of the actor were made up in different categories of apes such as chimpanzees, orangutans and gorillas. Even though they were still human underneath all the make-up, the effect of the make-up was phenomenal. During the lunch breaks some of the directors noticed an interesting case study. When it was time to break for a few minutes, the people automatically segregated themselves into groups. Chimpanzees sat with the chimpanzees, the orangutans with the orangutans and the gorillas with the gorillas. Subconsciously they segregated themselves on the way they looked, and the sense of belong to that group, due to them all being of the same "species". People even referred to the other groups as the ‘others’ if they did not form part of the group. And that is how we socialise, we choose a group of people we feel most comfortable with. And also share the same sense of belonging as ourselves.

Here are some of my tips to make sure you are not a planet of the ape socializer, but also how to make people feel part when they do socialize with you. Even when it is over Zoom.

Zoom on Friday's

Try and take some time out to Zoom with friends and family that you have not seen in a very long time. You no longer have to drive there, you can call them up and have a chat. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and learn to talk to other that might be different to you.

Focus on conversation starters

It can get awkward if there is nothing more to say. You can only talk so long around what the weather forecasting is looking like today. Have small question up you sleeves that can relate to something you want to know about the person or something that can be of there opinion.

Recharge after a hour zoom meeting

There is nothing more tiring than a one hour zoom meeting or socialising within a network. Sometimes we feel exhausted only after a few meetings. Make sure you create space in which you can unwind and relax.

Take breaks

After meeting or socialising, take half an hour breaks in between to get something to drink or getting up from a seated position.

Don’t over stay you stay

When you ready, say goodbye to everyone and leave the social or zoom meeting. Never stay longer than you should. Also never feel obligated to do so.

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